I’d planned to write this a few weeks ago, shortly after the Shadow Lane party, but life got in the way.
As Bridget shared on her blog, she caned me at the party.
She not only caned me, but she did so very well, and then proceeded to beat me with pretty much anything else she could get her hands on. And I liked it very much.
Let me take a step back here.
I really and truly identify myself as a Top, or when it comes to Sparkle’s and my relationship, even a Dom. That is the predominant part of my personality: its what I fantasize about doing, its the role I take on nine times out of ten and its really what I consider myself to be. I love being the one in control, be it spanking or other fun, and I find myself feeding off of that energy.
But even though I don’t identify myself as a switch, there are times when I enjoy switching, and certain people I enjoy doing so with.
My friend Wednesday wrote something similar on her blog recently, in the vein of what she calls her Multiple Scene Identity Disorder, specifically in the part where why she identifies masochistic side, yet continues to label herself as a Top.
“I list myself as a top on this blog and at spanking parties at this point because I have run into people with terminal Dom’s disease once too many times. Give me a decent sadist or better yet a switch any day. They will have fun with me and not treat me like a submissive later. I *loathe* being treated like a submissive out of scene. It is the quickest way for someone to tick me off. So I tend to guard that part of my identity for a select few Tops who are clueful enough to give me what I need without reading more into it than what is there. I do it for fun, to get high on my own endorphins, and occasionally I do it as a rite of passage or for a catharsis.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself. For me, switching is more about the physical side of things than the mental. I can be submissive in the scene, but, like Wednesday, I don’t want that role to creep outside of it. Or rather, I don’t want others making assumptions and trying to put me into that role, because its likely to have the very opposite effect.
After Bridget had caned me, I was talking with her, and I told her that I didn’t think I could ever really enjoy being spanked by a true Top or Domme. Strange as this may sound, I best like being spanked most by those who identify themselves as bottoms/subs, or true switches. I think part of that is my sense of justice: if I spank you, I can’t really object if you want to spank me sometime. Plus, its kinda fun at a fantasy level to think about having the tables turned like that unwillingly.
I think more so, however, its something of a defense mechanism for me. I feel comfortable in that a bottom or sub, who in a similar fashion to me may like switching occasionally, is less likely to try to exert dominance over me outside of a scene. And, if they do, I can always put them over my knee and show them the error of their ways.
So back to my scene with Bridget.
For those who know her (and those who don’t can get an idea from the picture below or her FetLife profile), she’s a fairly little thing. If you read her blog, you know that she’s not only a submissive, but a collared slave.
I spanked her for the first time at last year’s party, which was great fun. Before that same party, knowing my occasional switching interests, she also told me that she’d enjoy seeing me get spanked sometime. I did get spanked last year (by my dear friend Mija) and we had planned for Bridget to watch this scene, but unfortunately, it didn’t work out.
At this year’s party, Bridget expressed an interest in learning how to cane, and my same dear friend Mija became the willing subject for the lesson, taught by her husband Pablo.
Shortly after said lesson, the three of them ended up in the suite Sparkle and I shared with Iris and M. Mija informed us that Bridget was quite a gifted student when it came to using the cane…and an accurate one at that.
Bridget informed us that she wanted to cane someone else…and looked at me.
I’d been drinking a bit of excellent Scotch at that point, and feeling rather brave and willing to experiment, I grinned and said “Sure!”.
A few moments later, I found myself over the end of a bed, and discovered just how quickly Bridget had learned to wield a cane.

As Mija had said, she was very accurate too. I’ve not played with canes (on either side) much myself, but I’ve watched others enough to know its hard to lay straight strokes, to not wrap the tip and to just generally not give a bad stroke every so often.
I don’t recall feeling a single bad stroke from Bridget, and as you can see, the welts she left were practically all parallel to each other.

A bit later, after we’d all been talking for awhile, I was teasing Iris about something…counting up infractions for some misbehavior. I happened to be laying cuddled up against Bridget during this (enjoying the afterglow of both the cane and the Scotch) and she informed me that perhaps I should receive the number of strokes I was counting for her.
I grinned and said something along the lines of “Bring it on.”
Good thing I’d been warmed up with the cane.
I found myself over the end of the couch, and Bridget began wielding things other than a cane. Such as a heavy leather strap. And a paddle or two. I honestly lost track, but M was gleefully handing her things from his toybag for her to try on me while the rest of our friends watched and cheered her on.
By the end, I was in that endorphin-fogged blissful state that serious players know well. It was a strange feeling for me…I rarely ever play with that intensity, and while I’ve seen “the bliss” in others (and even brought it about with partners a few times), I think it may be the first time I’d really experienced it.
Sparkle basically had to lead me off to the bedroom and tuck me into bed before rejoining our friends in the other room. And I think I was asleep before she closed the door.
Of course, then next morning I was back to my toppy self and ended up with Bridget across my lap making sure she was suitably warm for her plane flight home.