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By Fireman Chris, June 15, 2006 2:18 PM

Just wanted to drop a quick note to apologize for the lack of entries lately, As I’m sure you’ve noticed, Sparkle and I have both been commenting about how busy its been around here, particularly with her job, and things are coming to head now. I just got back from 5 days out of town, and I’d planned to put up a post saying that I’d be gone for a bit, but events conspired to prevent that.

There’s a conference that I go to most every year that just so happens to be the week before Sparkle’s big work event. I’m fairly involved in the organization that puts it on and always have lots of things to do in advance of and at the conference. A couple of weeks ago I ended up unexpectedly assuming a leadership position (that I was slated to move into next June) for a subgroup within the organization. As a result, I had a bunch of planning items that needed to be taken care of before the conference since the outgoing chair wasn’t going to be there anyway and I was suddenly faced with running and participating in several meetings myself. It also didn’t help that I’m wrapping up a fairly major project for work and was trying to get as much of that off my desk as possible before I left (my next project starts in about a week).

But I’m home now.

I didn’t get home until fairly late last night, but even so, Sparkle and I made some time together before we went to sleep. She got a bit of spanking last night, but it was mostly…other things (you’ll notice I said “before we went to sleep”, not “before we went to bed”). She got a bit more this morning after the little one was off to pre-school, and I suspect she might be going to pick her up with a sore bottom too.

She’ll be gone next week for her job, so I’ll be a bachelor/daddy and will hopefully have time to post something more interesting.

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By Fireman Chris, June 2, 2006 2:08 PM

Hey, look. There’s now a second month on the archive list.

Iris, one of the new contributors to The Punishment Book, posted an entry entitled Memori-able Weekend that got me thinking about a particular aspect of my disciplinary relationship with Sparkle again.

I’ll let you read her entry for yourself, but the statement that prompted this post was the following:

“…M almost never spanks me when he’s actually irritated or angry with me…”

This, I think, has been one of the major stumbling blocks (though not necessarily always in a bad way) in my being a disciplinarian.

I don’t react well to bratty behavior, or rather, I don’t react as one would expect a spanko to react. When confronted with true brattiness, I tend to get annoyed, angry and generally separate myself from the unwanted stimulus (read that “go off and sulk” if you want). As Sparkle will attest, she sometimes even gets that reaction with the playful sort of brattiness that’s intended solely to earn a spanking for fun depending on what sort of mood I’m in.

We’ve talked about this issue several times, and a lot of it comes back to my feelings on spanking as play vs. punishment. But another, more serious, aspect is that I don’t want to cross the line from spanking as a consensual activity into something more abusive.

For me, giving a spanking when angry or upset is often too close to that line, and I think my getting upset and stomping off is almost a subconscious defense mechanism to avoid putting myself in that situation. I know I have a temper (I thank my Irish heritage for that and years of exposure to the various tempers in my family) and I worry about combining that temper with spanking.

The more Sparkle and I grow as a couple, however, the more comfortable I’m becoming with the notion of spanking her for something in the heat of the moment, so to speak. We’ve been edging towards that, I think, over the past year or two, and a few punishment spankings she’s gotten have been very close to this type. Knowing that she trusts me enough to spank her in that way is a very comforting experience, and at this point, its pretty much just my own feelings that stand in the way.

Who knows…someday soon, she may have an entry like Iris’ to add.